I promised myself that I would put out 5 consecutive posts before the end of the year and this is the 5th one so I’m really happy. That is one of the things I’ve learnt this year, I guess: Set specific goals and you’ll be able to reach them.
Another thing I’ve learnt is that you can have the love that you want and you deserve. I have only been in a couple of relationships in my life because I never wanted to settle. I knew the kind of relationship that I wanted and even though some people thought it was unrealistic, I knew that it was possible. I’m currently in the sort of relationship I’ve always wanted and I’m so glad and blessed that I got to spend this year with the man I call my boyfriend. So, to anyone out there reading this, never settle for less than you want because it is definitely out there.
The third thing that I’ve learnt this year is that procrastination is a thief. Haha, I know that sounds cryptic but I’ll explain. I’ve wanted to start a blog for the longest time but always put it off, for one reason or another. All that time that I’ve spent procrastinating means lost opportunities, lost growth and a loss of the self fulfilment I feel every time I hit the Publish button. Therefore, whatever it is that you’ve been putting off doing, just start. Every little step counts and you’ll be amazed at what you can achieve if you stop procrastinating.
The fourth thing I’ve learnt this year is that friendships don’t always last forever. This one was particularly hard for me to accept because I love friendship. I was always that child who brought friends home to spend time and for sleepovers. I always introduced my friends to my family pretty quickly and treated them like siblings. Unfortunately, a lot of these friendships have ended now, for different reasons. A lot of the time, I tried so hard to hold onto people who did not want to be held on to. However, I finally realised that it’s not about how long you’ve known a person but about how good they are for you (and you for them). Some people come into your life to teach you a lesson and then leave and that’s okay. I am thankful for the friends that I do have in my life right now and I love them very much (although I do wish a lot of them lived closer) . It has also made me realise that friendship is a two way thing. A lot of us accept bad treatment from our friends just because we don’t want to lose them. Things that you would never accept in a relationship become the norm in your friendship. If you are in that sort of situation, I urge you to really think about what’s best for you in this coming year and make some changes .
Finally, I have learnt to just be thankful. So many times, I focus on the negatives: “I haven’t done this”, “I don’t have that” and I totally forget about what I have done and the things I do have. After some reflection, I have realised that I have a lot to be thankful for and towards the end of this year, I have just been more grateful for everything I have. I am so thankful to even be alive for another year. So, I am very excited and thankful to be going into the next year with a renewed zest for life and things to accomplish.
Thank you so much for coming on this journey with me and I am sure that this time next year, I’ll have many more things to be thankful for.
I wish all of you a very Happy New Year and I’ll see you in 2018.
Until then, Ciao x